Do you remember when President Obama was on the campaign trail and someone asked him about his opinion on abortion? I’m not sure what his whole answer was, but I do remember him saying that if either of his daughter’s got pregnant he would hate to see them “punished with a baby.”
There was a recent editorial in the New York Times by Op-Ed Columnist, Charles Blow, which made much the same comment. He was pointing out all the pro-life legislation which has been passed on the state level this year, as well as the movement to de-fund Planned Parenthood. His response? “This is what we’re saying (by passing the legislation): actions have consequences. If you didn’t want a child, you shouldn’t have sex. You must be punished by becoming a parent even if you know that you are not willing or able to be one.”
“Punished by becoming a parent.” I’m having a little trouble getting my thoughts around that concept. Who exactly is it that is doing the punishing? Isn’t pregnancy a natural outcome from having sex? Doesn’t everyone know (except maybe for the very young) that this is a possible result when one has relations with a person of the opposite sex? Of course, what Mr. Blow is implying is that women are being “punished” by restrictions intended to make abortion harder to obtain.
Actually, the article goes on to explain that it is not really the woman but the child who, in his words, “will be punished most by our current policies that increasingly advocate for ‘unborn children’ but fall silent for those outside the womb.” I wonder if Mr. Blow knows that they are one and the same thing: every child outside the womb (including himself!) was once in the womb. Life is a continuation; we are who we are from the moment of conception. I guess what he is trying to say is that some children are best helped by killing them just in case their lives may not turn out so well after they are born.
Mr. Blow and I have vastly different definitions for insanity and how a “rational society” operates. In his opinion, in the face of the rising tide of unintended babies born to poor women and statistics showing that such children are more likely to live in poverty (plus eventually going to prison, dropping out of school, having a teen pregnancy, etc.) the only logical thing for us to do is (wait for it…) do a “better, more focused job of teaching sex education and providing contraceptive options.” Oh, and this was my favorite: “We have to remove the stigma and judgment around sex.” After all, “sex isn’t bad or unnatural. It’s one of the most natural things that we do. It just needs to be safe and responsible.” Plus maybe add allowing unrestricted abortions so we can get rid of all those pregnancies that women are being punished with.
Well, Mr. Blow, how much sex education will be enough? And, what is it supposed to teach? Because I think most of our young people get the point about how to do it. Our “entertainment industry” is taking care of that. So, what you really mean is that we need to do a better job of teaching people how to avoid the downside of all that sex, like sexually transmitted diseases or those pesky pregnancies. After all, we can’t tell people to stop “doing what comes naturally.”
I actually agree with Mr. Blow about several things. We are definitely reaching a crisis point with children born into single parent households. Their futures do indeed tend to be filled with poverty and a whole litany of problems. However, I would argue vehemently that a child is never helped by snuffing out its life before it is even born. All life is sacred, and only God has the right to determine when each life should end.
Mr. Blow admits that the situation is getting worse instead of better, in spite of the fact that we seem to be tossing birth control pills and condoms at our young people as fast as we can. The failure rate for this method of addressing the problem is overwhelming and yet the powers that be keep insisting that it will work if we just do it more. This makes about as much sense as throwing gasoline on a burning fire: MORE GASOLINE WILL NEVER MAKE THE FLAMES GO OUT!
Others like Mr. Blow keep telling us that abstinence is not realistic. In fact, like him, they extol its glories. The more sex the better! Don’t be a morally uptight prude.
However, the facts are the facts. It is not a lack of education or contraceptives that is causing these problems, it is sexual activity outside of the guidelines which God set in place. We were designed to have sex with one person in the protective confines of marriage; men with women, women with men. When we abuse our bodies with sex outside of these boundaries, there are natural consequences. Diseases occur because of the abuse. Children suffer when they are born without the protective environment of a home with both parents.
Do I know how we can turn things back and undo all that has gone wrong? I know it won’t be simple. It will require an entire transformation of how we think and act. It will take a return to God and obedience to His Word. Until then, things will continue to get worse. And that, Mr. Blow, is the definition of insanity.
Keeping it true! Barb